“Happy Birthday To My Ex”

If it still stings when you think about him.. sis, it’s not totally over. Not in your heart anyway. But I have good news! The good news is this: if you’re tested and you find that you still have bitterness in your heart– you can truly let it go and give it to God. I mean, really, intentionally let him go. 

I know maybe you hoped that things would work out, but it’s not that you weren’t good enough, it’s that your very purpose and plan that was predesigned before the earth didn’t include that relationship. No matter how many times you replay in your mind what you could have done differently, it wouldn’t have mattered– things happened exactly how they were supposed to happen. 

Whenever I see the bathroom door open, I run and close it as my 1 year old son, Logan going for it as well. I know if I leave the door open, he is going to go right for the toilet and he will have a field day playing in toilet water. He’s also going to totally destroy the bathroom. One day, he won’t even consider or think about playing in the toilet or the bathroom but as his mama, I have to close that door in his life. He just doesn’t know better, but I know better for him. 

Same goes for God. He knew that you were going to play in a “toilet” of that messy relationship and to PROTECT you, He quickly ran & shut the door because He knew what was best for you. Logan typically whines and cries when I shut the door and he even attempts to open it, but I stand firm in my decision and I lovingly pull him away from the door. One day, I will let Logan open the door and go to the bathroom because I know that he won’t abuse the bathroom. He will use it for what it’s purposed use. Until he is mature enough, I will keep that door closed. 

So, what about you? Did God close a door and are you sitting outside of the door with your arms crossed and mad at him because He won’t let you play in the toilet? How silly does that look? Sis, one day– God will open the door to the RIGHT man. When He opens it, you will be READY. But before He opens that door, you have to let him HEAL you from all of those times you sat bitterly outside of the door– mad at God.

God loves you so much that He is constantly going in front of you and closing the WRONG doors & OPENING the right ones. Some of us are still prying open old doors and allowing that bad way of thinking to torment us. 

Want to know why you cannot forget that scent, birthday or whatever else?

This is why:

So, we get saved, break up but we still have that memory trace from our past. 2 Corinthians helps us to deal with that in vs. 10:5- “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.“
So, capturing those stinkin’ thoughts is going to take some EFFORT and some work on your part. Yes, he broke your heart. Yes, he choose someone else over you. Yes, he played you but either you are going to think on that, or THINK on CHRIST! You have a CHOICE! I don’t know about you but as for me & my thought process, I’m choosing to think on Christ! I have been played, cheated on, lied to, verbally abused, beat up and everything else you can think of and I REF– USE to let my past push me around!!

Isaiah 43:18 tells us to “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”- so, I’m dwelling on Jesus and I’m talkin’ back to those memories that I should have never experienced.

Now that you understand what is happening.

Let Go.


It’s time to burn down memory lane & stop crossing that bridge. 

Love you all dearly,

God loves you like crazy,
Heather Lindsey